Not quite long, I attended a five-day Strategic Parenting Summit. One thing most of the speakers mention is that our kids want to feel heard, seen and understood.

They’ve also emphasised the need to connect with our children by spending quality time with them.

In fact, one speaker said ‘The quality of your relationship with your child determines the quality of their mental health’. Wow!

So, I took action immediately and decided to begin spending more time with my kids twice a week where they both ask me whatever question, tell me anything on their mind and I end by sharing a Bible story with them and we all draw out lessons from it.

One night, one of them asked: ‘Mummy, before you met daddy, did you have a crush?’. Ah! I didn’t see that question coming but I answered them honestly with a ‘yes!’ and they were shocked as they laughed away 😄.

They wanted to know more about my crush, interestingly, I was also about their age at that time too. It was an opportunity to tell them more about what a crush is and how to handle it. I also got to know more about a girl crushing on my boy 😄.

I really desire my boys to be open and vulnerable with me. No judgment from me at such times just love, fun and guidance.

It is only the first time and they are pleading with me to do it everyday. As much as I want to say yes, I also want to be consistent with no excuses, hence twice a week but we’ll see 😊. I love the vibe from this already!

I would like to encourage you to love on your children by creating time out of your busy schedule for them. That ‘difficult child’ would be easier to relate with because love always wins!

I hope this helps.

Let me know ❤️