She is the best thing that ever happened to me

He makes my life complete

I don’t know what I’d ever do without her

I’m nothing without him….

When I was single, I would often hear some couples make some of the statements above and I was always like “awww… I can’t wait to be married!” It made me think that marriage was the ultimate… creating in me a feeling that I was not complete until I got married. I thought marriage would make me happy and fulfilled in life. I was very wrong! Marriage exposed the fact that I was not yet ‘single and whole’- I was just unmarried!!! I relied on my husband for my excitement and happiness and the more I did, the more I got frustrated and frustrated him too because I didn’t realize marriage is like an omelette, it is only as good as the eggs!

These sorts of imaginations coupled with the romantic pictures of happy couples on social media made me get into marriage earlier than I planned! Thank God it was with the right man for me! I write this to enlighten singles out there who have these sorts of fantasies about marriage and are so desperate to get into marriage so as to be happy, complete and fulfilled in life; do not make the same mistake I made!

Marriage will not make you happy! Marriage is not an achievement! You don’t need to be married in order to fulfill God’s purpose for your life. Marriage does not complete you because God already made you complete. He made you unique. He formed you and said you are wonderfully and fearfully made! Begin to see yourself that way. He made you whole. Stop seeking a man or woman to complete you and make you happy, because nobody can. Only God can give that joy that you seek which can overflow into your marriage.

Many people have rushed into marriage, with just anyone, for the change of marital status, with the assumption that they will be happy and fulfilled. As a result, many have been disappointed, frustrated and stuck because they are either married to the wrong person or stuck with the wrong mindset in marriage. They are married and miserable rather than happy and fulfilled. They are enduring marriage rather than enjoying it. Marriage is beyond the pictures you see on social media; it is beyond the romantic ways Harry looks at Megan and smiles. Your marriage is only as good as your singleness! If you are not happy being single, I doubt you will ever be happy if you get married.

Are you still single? Enjoy this phase of your life. Being single does not mean you are disadvantaged. This is a period to get to know yourself, understand yourself, accept yourself, value yourself, love yourself and appreciate yourself so much that you are able to share yourself with that someone God is preparing for you to complement you. This is how to get yourself ready for marriage.

Enjoy your singleness! Maximise your singleness!! Be single and whole!!!
God bless you!!!

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