Years ago, I met this guy. We started talking and before I knew it we became very good friends as he called me regularly. I wasn’t attracted to him and I could not see a relationship happening between us. He was 11 years older than me! Although I sensed he liked me and enjoyed my company. He was a Nigerian and lived in faraway Singapore while I was in Nigeria. A Christian too, and had just finished his Masters. He was ready to settle down while I had just finished my A levels  and was seeking university admission. When he told me his intentions and how he liked me, I was very honest with him and told him politely how I wasn’t ready to be married just yet. I explained to him how I appreciated his friendship and advice but the age gap was also a barrier for me (more like a generational gap, lol). I would rather have him as a big brother, so we remained good friends still. Do you know that it was this big brother of mine that introduced me to my husband? Yes! He just told me one day that I was a very good girl and since he couldn’t have me, he would connect me with “his brother”.

Why am I sharing this?

Dear Single Lady, you are beautiful, have an excellent career, you are committed to God and His service but you wonder why you are still single! Even when you get into relationships, you break up as a result of some misunderstandings you couldn’t get past as a result of your attitude. May be now, no guy is even saying hello, let alone ask you out…

Not all guys that come your way would be right for you but you have to keep behaving right to meet and keep Mr Right. Some ladies have a very poor attitude and this reflects when a guy approaches them, especially to the guy they are not interested in or one that is not their type. I know some guys could be annoying with their approach; however, it is important for you to remain polite and not be rude even when you are going to turn down their proposal. Some men are helpers of your destiny and not your husband to be, but if you are too quick to judge and completely shut them out of your life with your bad attitude, you might have yourself to blame.

Examine yourself today!

How is your approach to people generally?

Are you even approachable?

How do you respond when a man who seems genuine with his intentions discloses this to you even when you are not interested in him?

Your friends could be helpful in opening your eyes to some of your faults that are oblivious to you or your blindspot. Ask them for help in this area. The next time a guy comes your way, be nice. He could be your angel, helper of your destiny, or even your future husband! Always have a good attitude!!!