Some years ago I was engaged to this great guy and was ready to marry him. I loved him with all my heart and he loved me too, or so I thought. We had a great future ahead of us. Our parents were aware of our relationship and our friends could not wait for us to tie the knots. I just finished from the university and got a mouth-watering job offer in a city outside where we lived. The pay was great and the package was irresistible. I mean, it included an official car and an apartment in an enviable location. I felt life was good. Surprisingly, my fiancé failed to see it as an opportunity of a lifetime. He convinced me to turn it down because it would mean us leaving our comfort zone which I agreed to; after all we would soon be married.

One morning, a day I’ll never forget, my to be husband called me to tell me that he was in love with another lady! I have never been so shocked my entire life! Was he crazy? What the hell? Was I dreaming? I couldn’t believe my ears. It felt as if my whole life came crashing down right before my eyes! My dreams were fading and I was in shock. I cursed him. I cursed the day I met him.

To cut my long story short, he is married now with kids and I am still single. I have been hurt so deeply. I can’t seem to trust any other guy. I am so bitter and can’t seem to move on. I really want to love again, I want to get married someday but I can’t seem to let go. I can’t seem to move on. Where do I go from here?

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Have you been through a similar break up or even worse? Maybe for you, picking up the pieces of your life seems an almost impossible task and you feel your life will never be the same again without your lost prince charming.

Listen, heartbreaks often hurt so bad that they suck! I must admit. However, don’t remain stuck with the past and fail to move on with your life. No matter the blow that you have been dealt, you’ve got the power to either continue to let that person control and consume your life or decide to use this as a stepping stone to your amazing life and future.

Ask yourself, where did I go wrong? What did I learn? What could I have done better? Ask God to help you forgive the person, forgive yourself if you need to and determine to move on with your life. He has moved on with his; why not move on with yours? Don’t let the root of bitterness grow any deeper.

When you don’t let go, it is like drinking poison and expecting the person that hurt you to die instead. That is impossible! So stop being bitter, see it as the guy’s loss instead of yours. You’ve still got even more beautiful years ahead but your response to this event will determine whether you will get there or not.

No one has power over your life as much as you do! No one can make you a failure without your consent or approval. Stop repelling other very good suitors with your bitterness. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. If you are bitter, you will repel great minds and you will continue to set yourself back.

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