See, getting into marriage without first discovering your purpose in life is like being at a bus stop and deciding to get on any bus just because the bus looks brand new or because the driver looks so cool or because it seems to be the only bus available and you’re tired of waiting. If you w ould not do that when getting onto a public transport, why would you then go into marriage with no idea where you are headed? Little wonder why many people are frustrated because they are not fulfilled in their marriage! 

Before I got into a relationship, I knew I was going to practise as medical doctor, I knew I was going to go into the ministry too, I knew I was not going to be a sit-at-home mum (I am not against this but I believe there is more to the life of a woman than being just a wife and mother) and I was not going to marry any man who would have such a vision for his wife. These were conversations I had with my fiancé while we were courting and his views regarding my purpose and vision helped me make up my mind whether or not we would be able to walk this journey together. To the glory of God, my husband has been my pillar, he is my greatest cheer leader, ensuring that I blossom in my career and ministry. Being a wife and mother has never been easier with such an amazing husband

Dear young lady, it is not so hard to decide who to marry once by God’s grace you discover what your purpose is in life, your goals, your ambitions, your visions and dreams. Before you walk down the aisle with that man, find out if he supports your vision, if he would be comfortable to let you spread your wings and fly without feeling insecure. It’s also important that you find out his too and decide if you would be a suitable helpmeet for him. Remember that you would have to submit to him once you say “I do”. If your visions do not align, that’s a NO NO!