In marriage, cheating is not just about kissing and having intercourse with another person. If you are doing these, you’re already there:

1. If you are consistently giving another woman most of your time and attention, you are likely cheating.

2. If your wife is consistently complaining about the time and attention you give to that other person or it’s impacting negatively on the time and attention you give your wife, you are cheating.

3. If you feel like you need to lie or sugar coat things to your wife about this person, you are cheating.

4. If you feel the need to change your phone password or change the name of the person on your phone so your wife does not know, you are cheating.

5. If you feel the need to delete chats/phone calls with that person or make the calls secretly so that your wife doesn’t know, you are cheating.

6. If you feel the need to hide meetings with the other person from your wife, you are cheating.

7. If you are making the other woman feel hopeful that she has some space in your life, you are cheating.

8. If you are flirting with a woman consistently, you are cheating.

9. If you are becoming emotionally intimate with another woman, you are cheating.

10. When you derive pleasure from porn and secretly watch this, you are cheating.

Please bear in mind these points can relate to either gender.

Infidelity in marriage doesn’t happen suddenly.

Cheating is a choice not a mistake, so please examine yourself and retrace your steps before it is too late.

Rather than pay more attention to what you may be missing in your marriage, pay more attention to what you have.

Your marriage can blossom again.

Lots of love,

Dr Blessing Ekundayo

Relationship Educator and Mental Health Practitioner