Many young ladies these days can’t wait to be in a relationship, they feel so lonely, so they try to find a guy to call theirs by all means! In fact, the moment a guy smiles at them and asks for their name and number; they are already so excited and start to imagine all sorts of fantasies with him. Some even begin to flaunt themselves unnecessarily around the guy so that they can be noticed by him. The handsome bloke who is just ready to have fun and enjoy himself without any long term commitment in mind sees this as an opportunity thrown at him and grabs it.  They get into a relationship (most times undefined), often sexually involved and when he meets a hotter babe, he moves on.

The lady is left heart broken, she feels ‘used and dumped’.

No, girl! You were not used and dumped, you both used each other! You allowed yourself to be trampled upon and devalued because of your desperation to get into a relationship.

My dear, you cannot afford to continue to allow men take you for granted.  You cannot afford to continue to move from one relationship to the next with your emotions in pieces. Stop being so loose! It’s time you began to realize your worth and carry yourself with confidence and dignity. You don’t need a man to confirm your worth or beauty.

I remember even as a teenager till my early 20s, no guy could just have his way with me anyhow! What would I fall for? Was it love? My parents especially my dad would always tell me how beautiful I was, so hearing it from a guy was no big deal! Was it material things? Even though my parents were not rich, they had taught me to be contented with whatever I had. Was it to feel among because my friends were in a relationship? I knew who I was in God; I didn’t let any low self-esteem make me give in to such pressure. I wanted to excel in my academics and focus without the distractions and demands of a relationship, more so, a useless relationship.

Dear single lady, be busy about your purpose (if you don’t know your purpose, now is the time to find it), be busy about your studies, career, the things of God; continue to build and develop yourself.  The right man who will love and value you will meet you while you are at it.

When you are so desperate to be in a relationship or get married, you are easily vulnerable to being a prey in the hands of undeserving guys.  It is not too late to make amends. You worth more! You deserve more!!

God bless you.

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